Its all in the Tea Leaves by Candice Ashley

As I enter my mid-twenties, tons of milestones are happening all around me. Not to me, but around me. Co-workers, acquaintances, random people on the street and friends are getting engaged, married, pregnant, dream career promotions and buying houses. While I am chugging along at turtle speed. Summer is almost upon us, seasonally and is here socially for my mid-twenty year olds out there. I feel like I am spending all my time “working” on me, meditating and being open to revelations, and reading the tea leaves in the mug that is my life.

While the past year has brought me much growth and awareness, I am still striving for the inner peace. I still feel gut pangs and ego bruises with every other milestone happening to people around me. Maybe this is the plight of the self involved product of my generation.  My one consolation is that I am not jealous or envious. I am truly happy for the recipients of these grand events. They are embarking on a new exciting adventure. I am just puzzled as to WHY I am not on the adventure train too! I know I will get there, but I just want to know the time, date, year and place as to when.

I remember being younger and hearing older people say “your twenties will be the time of your life”. And now most twenty year olds I know, myself included, can’t wait for it to be over. The wandering, the thinking, and the stride making towards the (future) life you want to have. Then again I am a part of an interesting sect of young people who are plagued with notions of forward thinking. In my mind I need to figure out who I am now and fast. I don’t want to be 35 and then just realizing, holy sh**t, my life currently sucks! But in the words of Bikram Choudhury  “ You’re never too old, too late, and never to sick, to start from scratch once again“


I AM AN ISLAND! … Or Am I? by Candice Ashley

In college my peers were big advocates of the philosophy, “what you know is who you know.” I chose not to subscribe to that lifestyle and stayed committed to my “I AM AN ISLAND” philosophy.  I believed that “what you know is who you know” thinking, was for leeches. It was nothing more than mere nonsense extroverts used to prey upon my introverted energy and steal my amassed greatness. Then I started working in corporate America and thought “ *ooop… those folks in college may have been right”.

I was recently working on a project that I desperately needed help to finish.  It was after meeting a co-worker twice removed, that I finally saw the light.  I have always been on the other side of this equation, supplying information and connections. It soon came to me that I was misjudging this philosophy.  Those past experiences led me to believe it was about shallow questionable connections and always being ON. I can’t always be on, nor can I be around ON people for extended periods of time. In completing my project I was able to make genuine small connections. The sincerity put into these connections was the key. No one wants to feel like they are being used.  People may not remember the details of your exchanges, but they remember how you made them feel.

Since then my philosophy has changed a bit… I am not AN island,  I am ON an island. I frequent other islands for parties and on occasion invite people to my island to sip tasty rum’d up beverages.

*ooop= sound one should make aloud when shocking revelations are reached.

Introducing Our Newest Minus The Box Blogger – Candice Ashley

A very warm and excited welcome to Candice Ashley, the newest Minus The Box blogger. Candice will be sharing her warmth and humor with us on a variety of topics. We look forward to her contributions.

Candice Ashley is an atypical twenty something Long Island to LA transplant. She is currently working as an engineer in the aerospace industry. Candice is a miss of all trades. She dabbles in new fun experiences all on the spectrum of re-grouting her bathroom to samba dancing. Her idea of a nature hike is rummaging in clearance section of Nordstrom Rack (which is a monthly staple event). She is warm, enchanting and is on the journey to self mastery.